On People-Pleasing

What does the role of people-pleaser serve you
and who, dear one, are you pleasing?

When you please, where does your sense of self go?
What do you disconnect from to falsely connect with another?

I wonder, what would it be like to surrender this people-pleasing role for another?
Say, delighting in your authentic Self?
Not at the expense of another, but in an honoring, staying in your space way.

For, you must know who you are
what you want and need
in order to share from your true self.

Is this sharing from a place of being whole and regulated
or
afraid and dysregulated?

Perhaps the other side of people-pleasing is true connection
first with Self
and then in shared mutuality
with a safe
considerate
other.